Friday, October 19, 2012

The friend Hit or Miss

I recently read a blog post by ArmyWife101 called Facebook Friend or Foes? and it got me thinking. Since my first Army move with my husband I have been having the friend or foe problem on Facebook.  Some times I feel like I am back in a new high school all over again. Where I am there are over 5 different Facebook groups for the spouses. When I first joined some of these groups I thought it was a great way to meet fellow military spouses who lived near me and make new friends.  I very rarely send friend requests out though due to my insecurities so I've always welcomed the ones who were sent to me which I soon realized after a few months in those who sent them were not the right people for me. They were drama starting, crap talking, mean girl types. It saddened me cause after I got to know them I realized I never really knew who they were in the first place then constantly questioned whether they really wanted to be a friend of mine and even wondered if I was some times their topic of gossip. Hitting that delete button was hard for me even though I knew they were not the right people I wished to be around. I feared that if they realized I removed them I would instantly be the highlight of their back stabbing conversations. The more and more I began to rethink these Facebook friendships with this small group of women the more and more I began to question others I had on my friends list that had nothing to do with where I lived or military life. I shouldn't feel the need to keep these people on my friends list if they show no real interest in being on it and act the exact opposite of how I feel about things. So now I believe I have some early spring cleaning to do.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Goodbye Dear Friends

    Since becoming an Army wife almost a year ago I have learned more about true good friendship more then I've have learned in my younger years.  The worst part about meeting those wonderful people is how short they stay in my life.  I have only been living at my first installation for a little over six months and so far one has moved away and another will be heading out next month.  Its tough but such a learning experience.  With meeting new friends with every new place I will be I will also be meeting new enemies.  Its been hard trying to remember that having a wall up is okay when you arrive in a new place filled with bored stay at home wives. The drama can creep up onto your own door step when you put yourself out there to make those new good friends. It reminds me of high school all over again.  When you have those few good friends though to lean on you come to realize that you don't need to surround yourself with all the local frenemies.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Alice in Deadland

This is a new take on a zombie apocalypse that I really enjoyed.  The storyline was fresh and did not feel over used as some zombie books can go.

Alice was not like the teenagers that we would know today. Born after the Rising and living in a post-apocalyptic wasteland, her life only focused on one thing only. To kill any Biters that came near her small village.  But her life quickly changed along with everything she thought she knew when she came across a Biter with rabbit ears on his head and followed him down the "rabbit hole".

This story is a odd twist of Alice in Wonderland meets Resident Evil as this young girl fights against the true enemy of the Rising and of what is now known as the Deadland. I also get a slight Hunger Games vibe with having a young female heroin who stands up for her people. Overall I really enjoyed the book. It was a very easy read and had some good page turning parts! I gave it a 4 out of 5 only because I did feel that there were somethings I would have liked to be further explained and have gone into a better detail.

Alice in Deadland is a keeper and I recommend it to those who always like a little zombies in their life!

Tuesday, January 03, 2012

C'est la vie

This past year has not been like any other year.  So many things have happened and changed.  Not just in my life personally but throughout the whole world.  It amazes me every time that ball drops in Time Square NY how much I begin to reflect on the past 364 days.  For some 2011 was a very difficult year while for others it may have been their best.  As for me it was right in the middle. My small family may have had our struggles and hardships but there were many joys between them all.  I would have to say though that besides my only son's first birthday, my husband becoming a US Soldier was one of the proudest moments in my life!  Just like a parent cannot exactly describe the feeling they get when they look at their small child I too feel unable to describe the way I feel when I look at my husband when he is in uniform.  I know since he is still fresh out of Basic Training that he has not accomplished what so many service men in our country have but that doesn't change the way I feel! 

There are now so many new things we get to look forward to in the upcoming months.  2012 will most assuredly be an interesting one as we both start our adjustments to the US Army.  We have made so many new friends and collected wonderful memories in only a span of a few months but these will last us a lifetime! I am proud of every single one of the soldiers who enter my home as if they are my own family. The Army though has taught me as well how to be patient along with diligence and strength.  My life will be forever changed and I welcome every bit of it. So "such as life" or C'est la vie as the French say is now my new motto when it comes to how things are now since it seems with a military life comes a new change of the wind at any moment.